Saturday, January 5, 2013
Just add Alcohol
Happy New Year Everyone!
It's been quiet on the swing front here lately, but not quiet on the flirty fun front. We are going to a meet and greet tonight so who knows what fun that might bring. We are actually at this moment just sitting here on the couch trying to recover from last nights late night at a bar.
The topic I would like to talk about today is vanilla parties.
Roll and I were invited to a vanilla party on New years. The group that was having the party we are fairly new to and we only know a few of the people. They are all very friendly and there was probably about thirty people there. Some were couples some were singles. The ages varied largely but mostly close to our age somewhere in there 40s. After arriving we both noticed how flirtatious some of them had become. Many of them were commenting and ogling over the women who were wearing low cut or revealing tops. I have heard others talk about the fact that the more alcohol the more flirtatious vanillas can be. The problem we ran into is for us who are not vanilla there is the fear of outing ourselves in such situations by pushing them even further. A couple of examples of this, was when one of the people we do know came to us with a single girl they were both drunk and her comment was, this is "Sally" she hasn't been with anyone in over a year. Do you guys know anyone who can help her out? She looked right at us and said "I need dick". Rolls response, "come back to our house he'll give you dick ". I don't drink so being sober I laughed it off and proceeded to stop Roll from divulging too much. Roll started to tell her about the club in LA, again I changed the subject in an attempt to divert the attention from our lifestyle. The same girl later did come up to me and ask me for our number and said she would like to know more about the club. I gave it to her. We still haven't heard from her, I think sobriety brought out the true vanilla. Another girl at the party also kissed me no less than 4 times throughout the party then commented, "Your wife has great tits". I said, thanks I know, and so do you. I also made it clear to her that Roll does not mind me saying that. I let her know that we are pretty open with each other. She then proceeded to grope Rolls' tits. I also witnessed one of the husbands give Roll a very long kiss. I had to stop that before his wife walked in. I also reminded Roll that she needed to be careful.
Last night found us at an art opening where Roll had donated a painting to a charity auction. The same girl who kissed me and groped Rolls tits was there. After a few drinks she once again became very flirtatious and we wound up finishing the evening at a local bar. We had a group session of groping and grab ass. We probably also divulged way too much to her. She now knows about our open lifestyle. The evening ended just saying goodbye and we parted ways with her. It will be interesting to see the reaction we get from her when alcohol is not involved.
So, do these people really wish they could be more open or is it just liquid courage?
I kind of wanted to chime in also. So, hello and hope this finds you all well on the 5th day of the new year!
I have been finding myself lately more and more to just embracing my flirtiness and sexual ways. I know for me alcohol does give me a little more courage when it comes to fun frolicking times.
But like Walk said it's hard to embrace the openness without alienating people (most people) but staying true to yourself.
I think a struggle that will be one we will always deal with.
Well... actually at the NYE party I don't even remember kissing the gals husband and was told about it the next day by WALK. I do remember him telling me I was pretty all night and flirting but don't remember the kiss. No excuse though, just don't remember it.
Fun times though.....that I can remember.
As for this art opening, in the process of entering my piece this last week for the show, we ended up meeting this cool wacky guy. Well this guy right off the bat to me was intriguing. He's an over the top Sid and Nancy type, punker in his own time, and so passionate about all kinds of causes. Almost too passionate where he just wont shut up. Well while Walk was groping and grab assing with this girl last night, my sights were on him and I felt his cautious but not so shy sights on me. The more unique of a person, the more I'm attracted to them. Just does it for me.
Anyways, my liquid courage last night towards the end of the evening led me to tell him while sitting next to me that he drives me crazy. I know pretty tame but the eye contact and smiles had me going. Doesn't take much, I know. The end of the night outside the bar I gave him 2 quick lingering kisses goodbye and Walk says
come on Roll we gotta go. Lets call him Sid....is married to a nice girl and Walk once again reminded me that we can't cross vanilla lines. I would never want to cause issues. I let my sexual drive take over and don't sometimes think of the consequences.
We had purchased a piece of art last night and when Walk went this afternoon to the gallery to pick it up Sid says to Walk, you guys are really good together and your wife's awfully flirty. Walk told him, that we've been married a long time and we are pretty open and don't get hung up on what the other is doing. He said, you're a lucky man, my wife's not that understanding, she would kill me!
Man! why do I always like what I can't have?