Tonight we noticed that there is going to be a party next weekend right near our house. The party is actually less than a mile from our house in the downtown area. Keep in mind we are not "out" to many people. Some know what we do, but not many. The party is being hosted by the same group as the meet and greet we went to this last week. We already know some of them and most of them seemed like nice people. Roll and I are both tempted to go because it could be fun. I guess the fear is we don't know who we might run into. We know a lot of people in our hometown we have lived here for a long time and people are always remarking how we know everybody. I am not so afraid of being "out"... yea I think it could be awkward, but will it really effect my life? I think it would be worse if it was someone in Rolls family who found out. Mine I really don't care. There are certain friends we wouldn't want to know either. Most people know that our vacations involve naked time they just don't know it is a lifestyle resort. Part of me says the more people who are "out" the more normalized this lifestyle becomes.
Even last night as we sitting around our bonfire a neighbor stopped by and we were discussing a local art gallery owner. She was commenting that he was strange and she was convinced that him and his wife were swingers. Roll and I both looked at each other but said nothing. We both wondered what made her think that. It also reconfirmed that people have a negative connotation of swingers. So if she knew that her neighbors (us), were lifestyle people.....Would she look at us differently? Probably.
I don't know if we will go to the event, it's tempting. The club they are using is an extremely busy place especially on a Saturday night. I am not sure if they are closing off the front part of the club as a private event. If they did that could be either good or bad. If our vanilla world saw us going in they might ask what the event was, that might make it odd. Oh and I forgot to mention another neighbor of ours owns this club.
I guess we will just have to think about it and see what happens.
Just a thought here, but maybe when the lady commenting about art gallery owner being a swinger, she was actually trying to see your reaction as positive or negative. I know that for years when I was broaching the topic of sexual ideas with friends/co-workers, I would do so in a way that deflected any negativity toward another party or made it all appear to be a joke. It is the easy way out if the person you bring a topic up to is not into it.
ReplyDeleteI guess it is easy for me to sit back here and tell you you ought to go for it, but really, many of these people were already at the meet & greet, so they know anyway. And, if one of your neighbors is sitting outside the club watching to go in, something tells me they are just as interested as you are!
I understand what you are going through. There is a club in Ft. Lauderdale that holds a swinger meet & Greet every Friday night. You register through SDC and when you give your screen name you get a wristband and free entry. Other than that, there is nothing separating you from the other patrons...and you now have an identifying wristband seemingly designed to make people ask "what's that for."
ReplyDeleteWe have contemplated going several times, but have never mustered up the time / courage / wherewithal to go. Up until your last revelation (that a friend owns the club) I would have said "oh hell, go for it." Now, I say go for it if the risk is acceptable.
Weak, but it is all I got.
TTFN
Mr No Name
Mr. Man and I struggle with this too. Mainly because of his job and the need for discretion. Let us know what you decide about this party. Loving reading about your experiences!
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